My 30 days challenge | cinchona's Blog

Good morning :)
I'm proud of myself beacause finally I broke the habit yesterday.. Going through my diaries really helped me realizing that I'm the problem.
So, I had to take action immediately and I did.
I've decided to just stop it.. stop thinking too much.. stop the nagging and whining .. Stop the victim attitude.. All of this didn't get me anywhere  before so how would it get me anywhere now..

So, my husband called me yesterday and told about sth he messed up.. my first instinct was to blame him and actually i did indirectly for a while.. Then I realized what i'm doing and immediately I've changed the attitude.
Instead of blaming, I tried comforting him and thinking that he's more dissapointed than I am.
I even sent him a msg to reassure him :) And I found that this attitude was like magic.. he started feeling better and talked to me intead of closing on himself each time he has a problem.

Then, I found a video on you tube talking about how to keep your husband happy and intrested in you.. it gave me a good idea and i thought why not try it.. It's a 30 days challenge.. I have to go for 30 days without saying a bad word about him to him or to any other person.. No nagging, whining and blaming.. Also, i have to give him a a compliment every day on anything he does even if a very small thing.
So, I'll try it and hope to see the difference.
yesterday was day 1 :) Let's find out what will happen today..
I need to control myself and think about sth nice and sincere to say :)